Former Bachelorette star Clare Crawley spoke out about being sexually abused by a Catholic priest as a baby in an emotional new interview, revealing her therapeutic course of has not been “linear,” however she is making progress.
“I never talked about it for years and years,” the ABC alum, 40, mentioned throughout an look on Red Table Talk: The Estefans, noting that she is lastly prepared to show her “mess” right into a “message” for different survivors of sexual abuse.
Crawley recalled going to a Catholic faculty throughout her youth, bravely sharing that she was “the victim of a predator” and felt compelled to remain silent for therefore lengthy due to the disgrace and embarrassment she felt.
“My parents looked at Catholic priests as — they held them on a pedestal,” the hairstylist defined within the interview that aired on Thursday, September 30.
Crawley mentioned she was in fourth grade when she randomly shared it with one among her sisters, who went to her dad and mom with the data. “When my family found out, it was panic and it was flipping my mom’s world upside down,” she informed hosts Gloria Estefan, Emily Estefan and Lili Estefan. “And, how she treated me growing up was a lot different.”
“There was just something always in between our relationship,” Crawley elaborated, revealing a few years in the past her mom shared her personal expertise of previous sexual abuse after keeping quiet about it herself.
Crawley mentioned her household sued the church because of her personal expertise, so the congregation moved him to a different location and “he did it to more children,” she continued. “These predators bank on us being silent.”
“That’s why after 39 years, instead of letting it affect me negatively, I thought how do I take the power back?” she went on. “This is not my burden to carry anymore.”
Crawley mentioned the expertise nonetheless impacted her relationships over time, however she is studying to beat these inner wounds and rise above her outdated mind-set. “I had relationship after relationship after relationship with men that I chose that didn’t value me because I never felt good enough,” she shared.
Perhaps her biggest triumph was shifting her mindset from being a “victim” to a “survivor,” Crawley mentioned.
During the interview, Crawley mirrored on her journey of finding love with fiancé Dale Moss on season 16 of The Bachelorette and mentioned that she had admiration for herself even earlier than she discovered a robust connection on the relationship present.
Moss, who got here out in assist of her Red Table Talk interview, mentioned he needed to be “understanding” and compassionate towards what Crawley had gone by way of whereas serving to her to heal and grow. “I always wanted her to feel safe, secure and protected,” the previous NFL participant, 33, added.
The on-again, off-again couple have since called it quits for a second time, based on an Us Weekly report on September 28. “It was best for them to go their separate ways at this time,” an insider informed the publication. “They will still support each other and have love for each other no matter what.”